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Femdom with heart and mindLady Sas and Lady Victoria are among the most well-known voices in the German-speaking femdom community. With their blog Lady-Sas.com For years, they have offered inspiration, education, and honest insights into a multifaceted world beyond clichés. In this interview, they talk about their personal journeys into the role of Femdom, provide insights into typical beginner mistakes, discuss power, misunderstandings – and the power of humor. How did your personal journey to becoming a Femdom expert develop – was there a key moment that inspired you to found Lady Sas?Lady Victoria: I've always been curious about the different facets of sexuality and scoured the internet for new variations. The topic of fetish and femdom immediately fascinated me. I landed on Saskia's website, which offers extensive information for dominant women and submissive men, and eventually contacted her. Saskia took me under her wing, and I was able to experiment in a safe environment. I was soon hooked. The chemistry was so good that we are now Lady-Sas.com We run this together. I want to emphasize that Saskia and I are purely private femdoms. We are not professional dominas and we do not offer sessions for payment. We both have full-time jobs. Our project is just a side project in our free time. Lady Sas: My own journey to becoming a Domina was unfortunately less pleasant. I was facing the ruins of my marriage and had two options: complain and withdraw – or venture forth with curiosity and courage. At the time, I was completely new to the Femdom scene and had many questions. I knew there were professional Dominas who could easily answer them. But why should a Domina take the time to answer my questions? That's when I had the idea to present my questions as an interview for a Femdom blog. Eventually, my questions were answered, but my curiosity remained. It was always exciting to learn the perspective of a strong woman and hear her story. We now have hundreds of interviews with amazing Tops and Subs from all over the world on the website – from Hanover to Hong Kong, from Munich to Los Angeles. These include some world-famous stars of the scene – but also purely private Dominas and Subs. What role does humor play in your femdom approach? Lady Sas: I think I speak for both of us when I say that we enjoy having fun with a sub during a session. We take the fun of femdom seriously, but not too seriously. In the end, we're all just human and want to have a good time. If we can laugh together while we're at it – wonderful. You give a lot of tips for beginners in the BDSM scene. In your opinion, what are the most common misunderstandings that newcomers encounter?Lady Victoria: Women tend to want to please men. Anyone starting out as a Femdom must first consciously free themselves from such notions and realize: Here, I truly come first – and the sub only second. On the other hand, male subs often feel they have to coach their Mistress and end up engaging in Topping From The Bottom. The cliché that a Mistress isn't allowed to have sex with her sub is also very common. What nonsense! As a Mistress, you can do anything you want – naturally, within the framework of the agreements and while respecting the taboos, that goes without saying. Lady Sas: A very common misconception among new Femdoms is that they constantly have to be doing something during the session. Many think the session is a kind of show where they constantly have to provide action.This quickly leads to hectic activity and stress. Good heavens, what am I supposed to do? – I recommend simply doing nothing and observing what happens. Surprise: The world doesn't end. The submissive patiently waits for the Mistress's next command, that's all. As a dominant, you can always remain completely relaxed and calmly plan the next step. But you have to understand this and try it out in practice first. In your opinion, how has the BDSM community changed in recent years, particularly with regard to the visibility and acceptance of femdom practices?Lady Sas: We've noticed that society has become more open to the topic of femdom. It's cool to be a strong, dominant woman. Female empowerment is in vogue. The visibility of professional dominatrixes has increased significantly, especially on social media. Of course, there are downsides too. Let's put it this way: not all BDSM practitioners are confident and friendly. Some insist that BDSM has to be exactly the way they want it. If someone sees things differently, they're aggressively attacked. That's a shame. We always emphasize that there's no law that regulates BDSM in a binding way. Everyone should be able to express themselves as they wish. We simply show possibilities and inspire people to find their own path. But we don't make laws; that's not our approach. What was your funniest or most absurd moment in a femdom dynamic?Lady Victoria: I once had a submissive man present himself to me wearing a penis cage that had compressed his penis extremely flat. It actually looked as if he didn't have a penis at all. I could see the round metal plate and his testicles underneath, but no penis. I was quite perplexed and just thought to myself: Hey, what's going on here, where's his penis? When I opened the cage later, the mystery was quickly solved.Lady Sas: I find it funny when I receive emails from subs who address me as "venerable Lady Sas". I may be many things, but "venerable" is not me; that sounds really old-school. You have a comprehensive blog with many resources. What topics are particularly important to you when it comes to education in the BDSM field?Lady Sas: Our central theme is getting started in the BDSM scene. We want to inform and inspire our readers. We want to encourage strong women to embrace their dominant side. And we want to help male submissives find their role and enjoy it. What is the true power of a Femdom – voice, gaze, or attitude?Lady Sas: The true power of a Femdom lies in the unfulfilled longing of the submissive. A Femdom only has power because the submissive gives it to her. A dominant woman must never forget this. Submissives therefore deserve our utmost respect. And of course, it's important for a dominant woman to present a coherent image. Voice, gaze, posture, outfit – it all plays a role. What can we expect from Lady Sas and Lady V in the future? Are there any projects or surprises your community can look forward to?Lady Victoria: Absolutely! We'll be publishing more exciting interviews with tops and subs from around the world, releasing more helpful guides and interesting personal accounts, and hosting several private events again. We're really looking forward to it! It's going to be great. Lady Sas's team: Sub jO, Lady Victoria, Lady Franziska and Lady Sas. Photo: Thomas F., AI-powered image editing: Lady Franziska

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